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Official "We're Not Really Strangers" Rules

"We're Not Really Strangers" is a thought-provoking card game designed to deepen connections between players by prompting meaningful conversations and fostering vulnerability. Here are the detailed rules for playing "We're Not Really Strangers":


  • We're Not Really Strangers Cards: A deck of cards containing thought-provoking questions and prompts.

  • Scorekeeping Materials: Pen and paper or a scorekeeping app (optional).


1. Prepare the Deck: Shuffle the "We're Not Really Strangers" cards and place them face-down in the center of the playing area.

2. Determine the Starting Player: Decide who will be the starting player for the first round. This can be done by any agreed-upon method, such as the oldest player or drawing cards.


  1. Starting the Round:

    • The starting player draws a card from the deck and reads the question or prompt aloud to another player.

  2. Answering Honestly:

    • The player who receives the question or prompt responds honestly and openly, sharing their thoughts, feelings, or experiences.

  3. Listening and Reflecting:

    • After the player has responded, all other players listen attentively and may offer reflections, empathy, or support if appropriate.

    • The goal is to create a safe and supportive space for authentic communication and connection.

  4. Continuing the Conversation:

    • Players take turns drawing cards and asking questions or sharing prompts with each other.

    • Encourage deep listening, empathy, and vulnerability throughout the game.

  5. Exploring Deeper Connections:

    • As the game progresses, players may delve into deeper topics and share more personal insights, fostering stronger connections and understanding between them.

Winning the Game

  • The game can continue for as long as players wish, with each round deepening the bonds between participants.

  • Players may choose to end the game at any time, or after a predetermined number of rounds or questions.


  • Themed Rounds:

    • Customize the game by selecting a specific theme for rounds, such as self-discovery, relationships, or personal growth.

  • Group Reflections:

    • After each round, allow time for group reflections or discussions where players can share insights, observations, or feelings about the conversation.

"We're Not Really Strangers" is more than just a game; it's an opportunity for genuine connection and understanding between players. By fostering vulnerability, empathy, and open communication, it encourages deeper relationships and meaningful interactions that can last long after the game is over.

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